No life is free of difficult decisions.

The tough conversations. Holding back reactions. The difficult goodbyes. Walking through the door and having everything come to the surface. Allowing it all to hurt, like a hard breakup. Giving something the time and space it needs to leave your experience.

Healing and letting go is a heartbreaking process.

There is beauty in that raw place.

There comes a point in every major transformation where you no longer recognize the person you used to be, but you haven't yet become the person you're working toward. It's an unsettling place to stand, but it’s also intensely exciting.

It's your personal blank canvas. What you become next is yours to paint.

Something magic happens when you learn to sit with your emotions.

Suddenly you become adept at sitting with your situation as well. 

That means not reacting immediately, putting more thought into things, and feeling everything out more. 

Not reacting to something when you really want to takes discipline. The discipline of a saint, sometimes. It's a superpower.

So how do we build it?

Have you ever noticed that comfort creates chaos?
Comfort slowly narrows your focus until immediate relief becomes more compelling than long-term purpose.
We rarely wake up one morning feeling completely disconnected from ourselves. Instead, it happens one comfortable decision at a time.

Here's the silent process.

There will come a time when you have to jump a gap.
A chasm between who you are now, and who you’re becoming. A jump so large you can’t say for sure you’ll land on the other side, or if it’s going to be as soft a landing as you wanted when you get there.
But you have to try.

Often, staying true to yourself takes a lot more effort than abandoning your truth for the sake of ease. 
Comfort is only the illusion of having what you want. It masquerades as success. It lures you into a false sense of complacency.
I talk about this balance a lot; of finding that sweet spot between contentment and truly enjoying where you're at, and pushing yourself, whether that's out of your comfort zone or into physical discomfort. It's important to walk this line.

Good things can feel scary and uncomfortable too, you know.

Hope can feel risky because we never know when what we hope for will dissipate, suddenly becoming something else. Sitting in the presence of good circumstances and feelings can be as challenging for some people as sitting with the bad, just in a different way.

Something transpires.

Maybe you hit your head (like me), maybe you crash your car, maybe you have a conflict with another human. Life happens, and sometimes it’s extremely difficult to navigate the fallout. It can leave you cleaning up the aftermath, be that physical symptoms or emotional impact, for years stretching into forever.

Every experience is an opportunity to grow yourself as a person. You can mine for gold in the worst set of circumstances and you will always find it because there is always something to grow from. Since life is based in dichotomy — that intoxicatingly stark contrast between polar opposites — and we can't avoid the bad that inherently balances out the good, then at least we can learn how to embrace it all and make the best of it. Own it and use it.

Regardless of who you’re choosing to hire and why, consider the impact to your personal power. Hire for your personal life like you would if you were managing a company. Be the CEO in your experience. Lead yourself like you would a team. Own that position. Understand the impact you have on others.

I started posting these two slashes before quotes and concepts on social media. At first, I was drawn to the aesthetic, but over time the practice grew into a concept of its own. The lines aren’t the substance, but the frame for it. The empty space between that gets often overlooked.

Resilience has an easier time revealing itself when you are feeling strong. In other words, you are more likely to exhibit resilience and embody personal power when you’re not giving your power away to things that don’t serve you. Take your power back with good, consistent habits.

You could say to change your life, you need to first change your thinking. The truth is, to change your thinking, sometimes you have to change your life.

Switching up your physical location and environment is one of the most powerful catalysts for creativity. This is what makes travel such an important learning experience; it broadens the mind’s perspective like nothing else can.

It's a myth that everything should be balanced at all times. The idea that you can allocate a certain amount of time and energy to each area of your life equally is flawed.

You won’t know the true beauty of your soul until you’ve faced the darkness that tries to block your path home.

Since many of you are new here, I thought it would be a great time to take you through my journey to resilience.

I promptly found myself stuck on a closed highway, ten minutes from home, for an hour. This is a little more of a personal introduction to bring you this lesson: Don’t waste your energy trying to fight the unchangeable.

Energy and emotion management is what this training is really all about. It’s what I teach in this blog and the solid foundation on which The Resilience Method© stands. Energy and how you use it is everything.

The world is an increasingly busy place. It’s hard to even hear your own voice sometimes over the din of people and information vying for your attention.

Keeping your own space and safeguarding your energy is paramount, more so than ever before. Do you have a process for controlling the information that enters your awareness?

There are countless people whose lives have been saved by medical practitioners who have dedicated their lives to selflessly saving others. There are so many people this system has worked miracles for.

However, for those who have fallen through the cracks, there is one common thread, a dark side to a system that is ruthlessly cold and devoid of compassion. And it is FAR to easy to hand over all your power to it, until it’s too late to turn back.

It’s simple. Accept it. Roll with the punches. Water off a ducks back. Suck it up. Change your perspective. Be thankful for what you have. Think positive. Shrug it off. It’s not that bad.

Except life isn’t a positivity quote and resilience isn’t superficial.

Challenging yourself throughout life is inevitable. Often, that challenge hurts.

I took a quantum leap a few months ago, craving change and expansion, and learned to fly helicopters. It was the most epic experience of my life.

Here’s the caveat… it didn’t go as planned. Not even close.